Manners Of Giving Nasihat (Advices)

 

• Seeking the Pleasure of Allaah by giving Naseehah

It is necessary that a person has the intention of seeking the pleasure of Allaah when giving naseehah. Only such an intention deserves reward from Allaah and acceptance from His slaves.


If the intention is other than that, then that person deserves the anger and wrath of Allaah as well as the hatred and rejection of the people - including the one being advised.

• Not slandering the one being advised

This is an affliction that has befallen many Muslims. Many times, after taking a closer look, we find that the person giving naseehah actually wants to slander the person he is advising because of personal hatred. This does not befit the one being advised and may lead to a worse situation with no benefit resulting from the naseehah.

• Naseehah is to be given in secret

Naseehah is most likely to bear its fruit when given to a person when he is by himself, for in such a situation the person is less likely to be affected by the thoughts of others. The sincere advisor should not aid the Devil over his brother by publicly rebuking him and letting Shaitaan beguile his brother into not taking the naseehah. This closes the doors of goodness and acceptance, and reduces the chances of the naseehah from being accepted.


This is why our pious predecessors used to give naseehah in secret. Hafidh Ibn Rajab writes, "When the righteous predecessors intended to give naseehah to someone, they admonished him privately, to the point that some of them said, "The one who exhorts his brother between him and himself , then it is naseehah. The one who exhorts him in front of people, then it is merely scolding!"


Fudail Ibn Ayyadh, one of the pious scholars from our predecessors, said, "A believer covers up and gives naseehah, whereas an evildoer exposes and humiliates." Ibn Rajab commented on Fudail's saying, "It is naseehah if it is with a cover, while humiliating is with broadcasting".

• Naseehah is to be given with kindness, gentleness and softness

A sincere advisor must be kind, soft and well-mannered in giving naseehah to others, as this might get the desired response from the one he is advising. One must understand that accepting naseehah is like opening a door, and that the door will not open without the proper key. The one who is given naseehah has a heart that has a lock in some matter - for he has abandoned something that Allaah has demanded from him, or has committed something that Allaah had forbidden him from. There is no better key to unlock the heart than kindness in giving advice, gentleness in exhortation and softness in speech as the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) has said, "Kindness is not to be found in anything but that it adds to its beauty, and it is not withdrawn from anything but it makes it defective." [Muslim]

• Do not compel others to follow one's Naseehah.

It is wajib (obligatory) on the advisor to render sincere advice to others, but it is not his right to compel others to follow his advice as well. That is the right of the Muslim ruler upon his subjects or a Muslim Qadhi (Judge) in his jurisdiction. A sincere advisor is one who guides toward goodness, but he is not to command others to act upon it.


Ibn Hazm writes that one should not give naseehah on the condition that it must be accepted, otherwise if one goes beyond this, he will be oppressing not advising, and seeking obedience and control. In another passage, Ibn Hazm writes that if a person is mistaken in his advice, he would be expecting people to follow him in his mistake.

• Choosing the proper time to give Naseehah.

The one giving naseehah must choose the right time to give his advice, since a person is not always ready to receive naseehah.A person may be angry about something, upset about not getting what he wanted, grieved for something he may have lost, or there may be some other reason that might prevent him from responding to the naseehah.


Abdul Hamid Bilali writes, "Choosing proper time and place is one of the greatest causes for the acceptance of naseehah and eradicating evil", and as Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud said, "Hearts (sometimes) yearn and are attentive, but (sometimes) they go through lapses and feed repulsion. So take from them when they are (in a state of) yearning and are attentive, and leave them alone when they go through lapses and are feeling repulsion".

• Naseehah that is against Islam is not to be followed.

Giving naseehah is part of Shariah. Therefore, if someone gives advice to leave a deen demanded by the Sharia or to perform a forbidden deed, then it is not called naseehah. The one giving such should quit doing that and the one being advised should not accept it.


For instance, if someone tells you to shave your beard, to expose some part of the body by taking off the hijab, to shake hands with women on job interviews, to date the girl you are interested in, to take a job at a gas station that sells alcohol, or to go see the latest movie, then you should not obey. These matters are not counted as naseehah which the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) made part of the religion.

Virtues Of The 10 Days Of Dzul Hijjah

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

SIGNIFICANCE OF THE 10 DAYS OF DZUL HIJJAH

These days are very special. In one hadith Nabi Sallallahu alaihi wassalam said: “There’s no day in which acts (a’maal) are more beloved to Allah than these 10 days. The Sahabah (ra) asked: even Jihad? Nabi saw said, not even jihad, unless he goes for jihad, and never come back (martyred)”

These are the days of Allah.


It’s narrated in another hadith that Nabi Sallallahu alaihi wassalam said: “There’s no days in which the deeds are so heavy and more loved to Allah than the first 10 days of Zul Hijjah.(Nabi saw said further in Tabrani) so increase your tasbihaat.”

DEEDS FOR US TO PERFORM :

1- Increase tasbihaats (Subhanallah, Alhamdulillah, Lailahaillah, Allahu Akbar) after solahs.


2- Fasting during these 10 days (the reward is like fasting the entire year).


3- To read Solat Tahajjud during the nights is like reading Tahajjud in Lailatul Qadar ( a night which is better and more virtues than 1000 months)


4- Fasting (specially) on the 9th day will InsyaAllah expiates the sins of 2 years (a year before and a year after). This is highly recommended.

5- Qurbani / Sacrificing an animal.
The reward is the sins will be washed away as the blood of the slaughtered animal flows. This act of Qurbani will purify all the sins.
( if we slaughter the animal by ourselves, then we will get the meat as well, and it is sunnah to take 1/3 of the meat for yourself, 1/3 for the relatives, and 1/3 for the poor. The only thing one can’t do is to sell it.)

Mercy Like The Rain Is Falling Down

Try to listen to this nasyid, it's really nice!

Shia'h

(This entry is for my personal reference)
I was checking up some hadith, and I started finding all these different kind of narrations from some kitaab i've never heard of the name before. Then i found out that those are hadith kitaab the Shia people use, so...I thought that I'd better be more careful.)

...Shia'h/Shia...

Stay Away.....

Hadith Kitaab:

Al Kafi, Wasailushia, Biharul Anwar, Kitab Al-Irshad, Nahjul Balaqa, 3'orol al hikam, Tuhaf al Uqool, Al Mawaaidh, Sifatushia, Lantern of The Path, Risalatul Huqooq, Fadhaail ul Shia, Al Jawahir wal Luali.

Doa' Kitaab:

Mafatihul Jinan, Sahifa al Sajjadiya, Sahifa al Alawiya, Sahifa Redhawiya, Udattud D'aee

Website: ShiaChat.com

Islam Network

Assalamualaikum...
Just wanna write something quickly.. I found another beneficial website again Alhamdulillah, really glad and now I'm excited to explore the entire website (just have to wait for the right time though..quite busy now).
http://www.islaam.net/main/index.php
It's called Islam Network. Hope it benefits!

Fill Up The Tank

Ways to increase our Imaan:

1) Love Allah Ta'ala and His Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and follow his Sunnah.

2) Have Tawakkul (trust) in Allah Ta'ala.

3) Always have Sabr (patient).

4) Safeguard your tongue, eyes, stomach etc, from Haraam actions.

5) Stay away from Sins.

6) Increase good deeds i.e. offering optional prayers, fasts, charity etc.

7) Seek Knowledge. People who have Taqwa are those who have knowledge.

8) Always remember Allah Ta'ala.

9) Always remember death, as death is the destroyer of all pleasures. Remember what comes after death i.e. grave, when we are judged, whether we will be in paradise or hell.

10) Make Du'a to Allah Ta'ala. Du'a is a weapon of a believer. We need Allah Ta'ala.

A Program for Muslimaat

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This program is exclusively hosted  for Muslimaat(sisters) by Madrasah Al-Hikmah. If you are fimiliar with this area in Subang Jaya, then make yourself available on this coming Sunday, 8th November 2009. No registration required, no entrance fee, absolutely free!

For program details, please refer to the invitation.

Some activities lined up for you:

Qur'an recitation

Qur'an tafseer

English lecture (Imaan)

English lecture (Love of Rasulullah SAW and Sunnah)

Arabic and English Nasyid

Sketch (Hijaab Ban)

Quizzess

Definately not to be missed!