Saturday, August 27, 2011

How To Gain Tawfiq To Perform Tahajjud?

Tips to help you wake up for Fajr (and Tahajjud!), Insha'Allah:

1. Keep Away from Ma'aasi (acts of disobedience).
2. Avoid eating too much food.
3. Drink one or two glasses of water before going to bed.
4. Perform Wudoo (ablution) before going to bed.
5. Go to bed early.
6. Make intention in your heart to get up for Fajr/Tahajjud.
7. Set your alarm.
8. Establish Fajr/Tahajjud wake up calling system with family and friends e.g. friends/family members calling, texting etc each other to help one another wake up for the prayer.
9. Say prescribed supplications (dua) before sleeping
10. Once awake, do not linger lazily in bed.
11. Go to your local masjid to pray

Also... one thing that helps that I do when I study late, or am up until the early morning, is to put my alarm clock (which is very loud) in the bathroom... thus forcing me to get up to go to the bathroom to shut it off. While you're in the bathroom, just splash yourself with water and voila! You are awake and ready for Fajr.

Okay... so you dont have to do the splashing part, but try it.. it works Inshallah.

And the above 2 advices above about staying away from sins and sleeping early is very important. It is from the Rizq (provision/bounty) of Allah that He allows you to get up for Fajr and especially Tahajjud, and when you start sinning He may deprive you from turning to Him at Fajr/Tahajjud due to your sins and having turned away from Him. May Allah swt protect us all and grant us forgiveness and abundant tawfiq. Ameen!

Successful Husband? Beautiful Tips!!


How to be a Successful Husband


10 Beautiful Tips!

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.


2. Use the cutest and affectionate names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had names for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered. If there needs correction an the matter is serious then think before you act. ALWAYS use Hikmah(wisdom).

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

Forgiveness: Its Something Extra Special!!!


Pernah tak bergaduh dengan adik? Ya, ADIK. Gaduh dengan adik ni lain sikit bagi saya. Kalau saya bergaduh or tak puas hati dengan kakak saya, senang je nak mengalah sebab hormat pada kakak yang lebih tua. Tapi kalau berselisih pendapat dengan adik, susah sikit nak mengalah, especially bila dia yang salah, kita nasihat dia tapi dia degil tak nak dengar dan tak nak ikut. Jadi kalau bergaduh tu....SUSAHnya Ya Allah nak minta maaf! ( but I really don't like fights). Sebagai seorang kakak, memang rasa nak beralah. Mungkin boleh cuba nasihat dia lain kali dengan cara lain. Tapi, disebabkan kita tak bersalah, dan kita lebih tua.......2 sebab utama saya rasa susah nak kata "I'M SORRY". 

Now, dapat pula adik yang ada 'strong character'. Miracle la kalau dia yang mengalah and say "I'M SORRY". Kesimpulannya, sorang degil sorang lagi ego. (oops!)

Tapi masa bulan Ramadhan, kita digalakkan berdoa' dan minta ampun pada Allah atas dosa-dosa kita yang lepas. Masa tengah doa tu, tiba-tiba teringat yang saya tak bercakap dengan adik saya dah lama. Saya rasa....agaknya Allah terima tak doa saya ni? Allah suruh kita jaga hubungan dengan Nya dan hubungan dengan manusia yang lain, apatah lagi keluarga sendiri. Hari demi hari, perasaan bersalah dan sedih makin menebal dalam hati. Sampai satu hari, saya betul-betul azam nak cari sesuautu yang boleh pecahkan ego saya ni. Cari punya cari, inilah dia...article yang saya terima dalam bentuk email bulan Ramadhan hari tu. Bila baca ni, saya pun "BAIK! Saya akan minta maaf (salah ke tak salah, itu belakang kira...) sebab, orang yang maafkan kesalahan orang lain, Allah akan tinggikan darjatnya...Jadi kalau saya tak salah, tapi saya minta maaf, maknanya...saya maafkan pihak yang lagi satu....Bacalah article ni, jadikan panduan untuk minta maaf atau memaafkan orang lain...

The Messenger of Allah Muhammad [Peace be upon him] is reported to have said:

If one gives charity it does not diminish his wealth; if one forgives others, Allah bestows more honour on him; and if one humbles himself for Allah's sake, Allah exalts him higher." (Hadith-Muslim)

HANDY TIPS...

  • Make dua[pray] For only Allah can reconcile hearts and differences
  • Forgive- He who forgives is forgiven and Allah will elevate his status!
  • Act- SMS[text], call, email etc or even better personally approach the person/s and ask them forgiveness.
  • Remove Hatred-Don't hold any hatred in your heart. Hatred is the cancer of the heart and soul. It Destroys the Hater and Not the hated!
  • It's a process- Remember, forgiveness is a process that takes time and patience to complete. You must be ready. Realize that forgiveness is for you - not for anyone else.
  • Not Condoning- Realize that forgiving does not mean you are condoning the actions of the offender or what they did to you. It does mean that you will blame less and find a way to think differently about what happened to you.
  • Refocus-Refocus on the positives in your life. A life well lived is the best revenge. People who find a way to see love, beauty and kindness around them are better able to forgive and get past their grievances.
  • There is no such thing as an unforgivable act.So don't let your fear of what you did, or rage about what was done to you, dissuade you from either seeking or granting forgiveness.
  • Stay balanced. The number of apologies you seek should be proportional to the number you are willing to offer, because the doing of each nurtures the capacity for the other.
  • Know that you are never alone. Allah is always with you!
  • Allow love to triumph over logic. There will always be a good reason to keep doing what you are doing or to withhold your forgiveness from someone else. But real issue is whether or not you love them enough to go beyond that logic.
  • Keep it simple. Apologize for, or forgive, one thing at a time. There is always more to the story, but this is not the moment to explore it.
  • Remember that forgiveness is not always the end of the process, but the beginning of a new level of relationship which may continue to be shaped into something very special
  • Celebrate the moment of forgiveness by thanking Allah for giving you the opportunity to remove this burden off your shoulders. Give Sadaqah[charity] as it pleases Allah and removes Allah's anger.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Daily Routine During Ramadhan

4:30 a.m - Tahajjud, Doa, Qur'an (1/2 Juzu')
5:00 a.m - Prepare for Sahur, Sahur, Wash dishes (basuh pinggan + kemas meja)
6:00 a.m - Subuh Solah, Qur'an (1 Juzu' and Yaseen)
7:00 a.m - Sleep
8:00 a.m - Wake Up, prepare for Tadarus
9:00 a.m - Tadarus at the Surau
12:30 p.m - Rest (Qailullah/Siesta)
1:20 p.m - Zohor Solah, Qur'an (1 Juzu')
2:15 p.m - FREE
4:30 p.m - Asar Solah
5:00 p.m- House chores
6:15 p.m - Prepare for Iftaar
7:15 p.m - Doa ( spend more time making dua, because the dua of a fasting person is not rejected by Allah)
              - Iftaar
7:45 p.m - Maghrib Solah
7:55 p.m - Ta'leem (Fadhai'l A'maal) / or any ilmi activity.
8:10 p.m - Surah Lazim (Al-Mulk and Al-Waqiah)
8:40 p.m - Isha' and Taraweeh solah ( try your best to perform 20 rakaats)
10:15 p.m - I normally finish around this time. But if I go out somewhere during the day, then at night I'm usually tired, so Taraweeh will finish a bit later.
10:30 p.m - Qur'an (1 Juzu')
11:00 p.m - Bed time

How do I encourage myself to perform 20 rakaat of taraweeh?

1- It's the reward. Lagi lama kita dalam solat, lagi banyak pahala InsyaAllah. Malaikat doa kan rahmah untuk seseorang itu selagi dia berada dalam solah di tempat solatnya (sejadah/masjid etc)
2- Malam Ramadhan dr lepas Isya' sampai sebelum Sahur tu ( lbh kurang 7 jam) dikhaskan untuk Ibadah, kita banyak sangat masa....Jadi gunalah dgn sebaiknya.

Taraweeh is one of the highlights of Ramadhan besides 'buka puasa'. We should be excited to perform taraweeh just as excited we are to break our fast....You know how excited everybody gets when it comes to buka puasa right? A tip to perform 20 rakaat of taraweeh is getting enough rest during the day. If you rest during the day with the intention to gain strength for solah during the night, then that rest also is rewarded!

Well, this is how I manage my time during Ramadhan (especially when it's holiday for me), as you can see, there's nothing work related activity in the schedule. If we lessen the time we spend to go shopping, internet and television, we should be able to read at least 3 Juzu's EVERYDAY. Completing one whole Qur'an twice in one month won't sound so impossible anymore right? Like I said, AT LEAST. The huffaz normally Complete the Qur'an more than 5 times and even more in this month alone. Subhanallah! I'm still very weak compare to these people, however we try our best according to our capability nah? Good luck everyone!

Monday, August 22, 2011

Muslim Manga

Read Islamic Manga at Muslim Manga!

The Pious Studenthttp://muslim-manga.com/manga/the-pious-student

A Change To Fisabilillah http://muslim-manga.com/readmanga/A_Change_To_Fisabilillah

Kazruya Awakes The Thiefhttp://muslim-manga.com/readmanga/Karzuya_Awakes_the_Thief/complete/1

I'm not telling you to waste your time, but perhaps you can use it as a stepping stone towards leaving the habit/hobby of reading romance novels, watching non-mahram men/ women over the television and listening to music. Whether it's K-Pop, J-Pop or any of those similar ones...........Really, I understand the feeling of being addicted to those influences and how difficult t is to stop, it requires a lot of effort and strong determination to stop watching and listening to music.

People tell me, you must listen to Quran, Asma'ul Husna, and Zikr, but trust me, how can you possibly skip the breast stroke basics of swimming and go straight to BUTTERFLY? When you erase a black colour, the black shade fades away to grey first, then to white (completely gone). It's not BLACK to WHITE in one step.

What I'm trying to say is, listening to any kind of music, Korean, Japanese, Lady Gaga or even Justin Bieber's is not Islamic, and against the Syariah (I'm not going to explain the dalils in this post, if you want, then InsyaAllah I'm more than happy and willing to explain). We have to try and break ourselves away from them slowly but surely, taking one step at a time.

This KJT (made my own short formed of Korean, Japanese and Taiwanese) phenomena is a disaster to not just our Muslim youth, but the older generation too. It kills me to see so many and so many of my friends, and other people around me all over the places in Malaysia, so blinded by these people. So again, this website is not to waste our time, but to slowly draw ourselves out from this crazy craze. Maybe from watching too much dramas on You Tube or televisions, you switch to these comics first, then another step. Cute stories with good morals these comics have. And aren't those actors and actresses non mahram from whom we are supposed to lower our gazes?  Instead what we do is staring and admiring them too much?!

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Starbucks is Not Halal


Please don't be so sad and look so disappointed ladies and gentlemen! But yes, it's not halal....
GOTTA RESIST THIS SWEET TEMPTATION!

STARBUCKS telah disahkan haram oleh JAKIM. Semua chocolate, vanilla dan coffee drinks kat Coffee Bean dan Starbuck contains E471 (Emulsifier 471), mono di-glycefideswhich dr animal origin (pork). Raspberry Frap guna cherries yg dicelop dlm arak & the tiramisu ada RUM. Tlg sebar kat kekawan Islam. Hubungi JAKIM 03 - 8886 4000 utk dpt maklumat lanjut..